“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Bernard M. Baruch
Genuine confidence is very different from self-absorbed swagger. When individuals believe in themselves and their abilities without boasting, they do not do unpretentious things. Learning to be confident is essential, but there is a thin line between confidence and over-confidence. So I’m going to focus on specific behaviours that highly confident people apart from everyone else. In this blog, I will highlight the core habits confident people share so that you, too, can incorporate them into your life.
When someone is self-confident, they have a healthy relationship with their appearance. They stay fit, well-groomed, and eat healthy foods because they are in tune with their bodies. They deserve and understand that their bodies need to be cared for properly. Confident people improve the things they can and strive to put their best foot forward and then accept themselves as they are.
Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, you can still be confident. Confident people understand that self-assurance originates from feeling optimistic about who they are and what they can achieve. By being completely authentic, they don’t try to be someone they’re not because they understand that self-acceptance is a vital element of self-confidence.
Self-confident individuals don’t assume other people have all the answers or know what’s best. They value their good judgment and listen to their intuition. They recognize that they have the ability to come up with the answers for most situations. They may seek input and guidance, but they are comfortable making a final decision when the time comes.
A confident person understands that a conversation is an exchange of thoughts and not a solo act. They take the time to learn what others are passionate about. Even if they aren’t particularly interested in the topic, they know that they are much more likely to learn and grow by actively listening and paying attention to others.
Confident people know that conflict is a part of life, and they don’t see it entirely as something to be avoided. They see it as something to manage effectively. They don’t go along to get along, even when it means having uncomfortable conversations or making unpleasant decisions.
Most people think it’s worthwhile to put more time into strengthening their weaknesses. Those with confidence, however, understand that success comes with continuing to improve upon your strengths. They can accept their flaws gracefully and put more time and effort into endeavours where they know they’ll have more likelihood of success. They maximize their time and energy this way.
Have you ever been around someone who constantly needs to hear how wonderful they are while confident people are not like this? Confident people don’t require constant praise. They know that their success does not depend on other people’s approval, and they understand that no matter how well they perform, there’s always going to be somebody out there offering nothing but criticism. Confident people also know that the kind of confidence dependent on praise from other people isn’t confidence at all; it’s narcissism.
People with confidence are lifelong learners. Even when they are experts in their field, they have a learners mindset. They know that there is so much more in life to achieve and so many ways to grow. They aren’t entrenched in old ways of doing things or old beliefs about what is right, or best they look for ways to stretch themselves through new endeavours.
Confident people don’t force their beliefs on anyone else. Whether those beliefs are political or religious, they clearly understand that everyone’s personal views and choices are unique. They may stand up for themselves when others oppose but will never challenge what others think or feel the need to tell them that they are wrong.
Embracing the behaviours of confident people is a great way to increase your odds for success and happiness. Remember, building confidence is a journey, not a destination.
Never stop believing, learning, asking the question why, and being unique.