“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
― Roy T. Bennett

By the time we reach our 30s and 40s, life has stopped being a straight line. Careers evolve, relationships deepen or shift, and the questions we ask ourselves become more complex. We start to realize that growth doesn’t always come from achievement—it often comes from adversity.

The truth is, some of our most powerful breakthroughs happen in the dark. When plans fall apart, when we feel lost, when the path forward disappears—those moments aren’t detours. They are the journey.

Self-discovery, like leadership, isn’t a checklist. It’s messy. It’s nonlinear. It’s made up of twists, setbacks, and unexpected turns. And while those moments can be painful, they’re also where transformation begins.

Here’s what the years have taught me:

• The obstacles we face aren’t punishments—they’re invitations.
• The discomfort we feel is often the first sign of growth.
• The crises that shake us also reveal our strength.
• The fear we feel is often the doorway to something deeper.

So if you’re in a season of uncertainty, don’t rush to escape it. Sit with it. Listen to what it’s trying to teach you. The darkness isn’t your enemy—it’s your teacher. It’s asking you to let go of what no longer fits and make space for what’s next.

Nature reminds us of this constantly. Trees don’t cling to their leaves in winter—they release them. Not because they’ve failed, but because it’s time. That shedding makes room for new growth. And so it is with us.

Whether you’re rebuilding, reimagining, or simply pausing to reflect—know this: You’re not behind. You’re becoming. And the wisdom you gain now will shape everything that comes next.

Learn, unlearn, and relearn.

Brian Nadon